Sara Apple Maliki
How old do you want to live to be?
I don’t really feel like I have an age in mind. I am not afraid of death. I think God has a plan for me and whatever that is, it’s beyond my control or comprehension.
Do you have a fantasy funeral?
Only if I die tragically. In which case, I would like an identical funeral to Juliet’s in Baz Luhrmann’s Romeo + Juliet. Everyone will have to wear couture to my funeral. Then the people closest to me will have to mourn for a year like 19th century Sicilian widows. The more drama the better.
What scares you the most about dying?
That I won’t have fulfilled my life’s purpose before I die.
What would your 3 pieces of wisdom be for the those left behind?
Live, laugh, love. Just kidding… What do I know?
If you had a destination funeral where would it be?
In Santa Ana’s chapel in the Vatican where my parents got married. It’s one of the most charming and breathtaking places on earth.
Open casket wake? Burial? Cremation?
Open casket and burial! Drama!
If cremation, where would you want your ashes spread?
I don’t know!
Top 5 songs to play at your funeral?
Mystery Train - Elvis
A Forest - The Cure
Sitting in the Park - Billy Stewart
Gonna Hurry (As Slow As I Can) - Dolly Parton
Godstar - Psychic TV
If you could live forever, would you want to?
I am not breaking my anonymity if I’m a vampire!
Where do you think you go once you die?
Hopefully somewhere I’ve dreamt about that is so radical I cannot even fathom in my waking mind.
If there is a heaven who are 3 people you would like to hang out with?
My great grandmother, Elvis, and Greg but I don’t know if they made it into Heaven… so…
Do you believe in ghosts?
Absolutely. I had a supernatural experience as a little girl that changed my entire personality.
If reincarnation is real what do you want to come back as?
I think the point of that is I don’t get to choose however, since you asked… definitely a dog who is as spoiled as my own.
What are three words you hope people use to describe you when you are gone?
Polarizing, insane, fun.
Biggest regret in life?
BORING! The only thing I truly regret is not understanding how powerful I am sooner in life
What are the top 3 things that helped you through grief?
Accepting that I don’t get to understand why the person died. Honoring their lives by living mine. And talking to them regularly. The way one would pray.
Best advice someone gave to you?
Don’t make the fact that you lost that person the most important part of the relationship you had with them.
Did meditation, friends, food help you the most?
I don’t think any of those. I think going to connect with my personal relationship to God and spirit did. Not in a religious way but in a more abstract way.
How was navigating the funeral home system and what’s your advice?
I really haven’t had to deal with the particulars of this yet.
If you were to give someone 1 piece of advice on grief what would it be?
Time heals all.