Lisa Ilario
Artist Agent, Exec Producer
Brooklyn NY
I have always thought I would live to be 86… but now I would like to hit 90.
Do you have a fantasy funeral?
My mother in law was an amazing woman and her funeral was so lovely. Simple with just a few speeches from her kids and grandkids and a large party after. It was so full of people from different parts of her life. So much maintained connection right till the end. Goals.
What scares you the most about dying?
Not getting to see my kids thrive
What would your 3 pieces of wisdom be for the those left behind
1) Do the right thing - it takes so much less energy then stressing cause you didn’t
2) call your family and friends - especially the old ones
3) Put fun on the list
If you had a destination funeral where would it be?
I wouldn’t have a destination funeral … but if I had to have one… Australia, where I have family and friends
Where would you want your ashes spread?
I would want my family and close friends to each spread a little bit of my ashes somewhere close by that they like to visit
Top 5 songs to play at your funeral
Naive Melody ( talking heads)
Peace Piece ( Bill Evans)
I’m Alive ( Johnny Thunder )
On the nature of Daylight ( Max Richter )
You can’t always get what you want (Rolling Stones)
Open casket wake? Burial? Cremation?
Cremation
If you could live forever, would you want to?
No … but living through an extra generation or two would be nice
Where do you think you go once you die?
If you are lucky, into the hearts of your people
If you are lucky, into the hearts of your people
If there is a heaven who are 3 people you would like to hang out with there?
Easy, my aunt Cathy, my brother and my mother .. I have so many questions for them and so much to catch them up on !
Do you believe in ghosts?
I do - kind of… not the movie kind, but the energy, memory kind
If reincarnation is real what do you want to come back as?
I hit the jackpot this time around … so hard to say…maybe a quiet life as a male craftsman, someone slow and deliberate and centered ? maybe a pampered house cat ?
I hit the jackpot this time around … so hard to say…maybe a quiet life as a male craftsman, someone slow and deliberate and centered ? maybe a pampered house cat ?
What are three words you hope people use to describe you when you are gone?
This is the hardest question on this list ..but I guess; good-mother, good-partner, good-friend…
Biggest regret in life?
I worry too much - it’s a constant battle
For those who have lost people they love:
Top 3 things that helped you through grief?
Feeling like I said everything I needed to say, having my family near by
I worry too much - it’s a constant battle
For those who have lost people they love:
Top 3 things that helped you through grief?
Feeling like I said everything I needed to say, having my family near by
Best advice someone gave to you?
Their memory is a blessing
Did meditation, friends, food help you the most?
My family helped me the most
How was navigating the funeral home system and what’s your advice? Hard and expensive… I kept thinking what a burden it would be on a family with tight resources
If you were to give someone 1 piece of advice on grief what would it be?
Savor it a bit.. don’t rush through it.
