Eden Meyer
Conway, MA
How old do you want to live to be?
93
Do you have a fantasy funeral?
Yes, I would like my funeral to be more of a celebration than a long service. I want people to be able to come and go when they please. I want there to be delicious food, pretty flowers and a good playlist, as well as lots of pictures so that people can see all the versions of me.
What scares you the most about dying?
Leaving people behind.
What would your 3 pieces of wisdom be for the those left behind?
Be yourself.
Don’t waste your time.
Look out for others.
If you had a destination funeral where would it be?
I’m not sure exactly but somewhere outside in the country.
Where would you want your ashes spread?
I think I would want to leave that up to my family. I think it would be more meaningful for them than me.
93
Do you have a fantasy funeral?
Yes, I would like my funeral to be more of a celebration than a long service. I want people to be able to come and go when they please. I want there to be delicious food, pretty flowers and a good playlist, as well as lots of pictures so that people can see all the versions of me.
What scares you the most about dying?
Leaving people behind.
What would your 3 pieces of wisdom be for the those left behind?
Be yourself.
Don’t waste your time.
Look out for others.
If you had a destination funeral where would it be?
I’m not sure exactly but somewhere outside in the country.
Where would you want your ashes spread?
I think I would want to leave that up to my family. I think it would be more meaningful for them than me.
Top 5 songs to play at your funeral
Sea of Love - Cat Power
Purple Rain - Prince
Into My Arms - Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds
Nothing Compares 2 U - Sinéad O’Connor
My Tired Feet - Alela Diane
Open casket wake? Burial? Cremation?
I don’t like the thought of my body being stuck under the earth, rotting, it feels very claustrophobic so I think I would like to be cremated.
If you could live forever, would you want to?
No.
Where do you think you go once you die?
I don’t know. I don’t really believe in the whole heaven and hell thing it just doesn’t make sense to me.
If there is a heaven who are 3 people you would like to hang out with there?
My 2 grandfathers and Leonard Cohen.
Do you believe in ghosts?
I’m not sure, I have no reason to but I also have no reason not to.
If reincarnation is real what do you want to come back as?
Probably some kind of cat but I don’t think it would be up to me.
What are three words you hope people use to describe you when you are gone?
Caring
Interesting
Authentic
Biggest regret in life?
Overthinking and never fully living in the moment.
Top 3 things that helped you through grief
Time
Laughing, crying and talking
Memories; photos
Best advice someone gave to you?
Don’t push the feelings away even though it may feel uncomfortable.
Did meditation, friends, food help you the most?
Honestly there wasn’t one thing that helped the most, it was just a matter of time and understanding the new reality of it.
How was navigating the funeral home system and what’s your advice?
I’m not sure, luckily I didn’t have to deal with it.
If you were to give someone 1 piece of advice on grief what would it be?
Don’t ignore the feelings and memories, embrace them and find things that make you feel connected to the person you lost.
